Five Myths About Italy

A few months ago, I was interviewed by Blog Expat for their Expat Interviews feature; a lovely time was had by all. Answering the questions made me reflect deeply on my years living abroad – how did I get here (Ryan Air)? What advice would I give other expats (stock up on Jell-O)? But the question I had the toughest time answering was: What is the biggest myth about your adopted country? Now that was a real head-scratcher; a real Sophie’s Choice of a question. In the end, I went with perhaps the largest myth I encounter: Italy is paradise; nothing bad ever happens there; it’s beautiful delicious dreamland; how dare you complain about anything if you live there? Right… if you’re just on vacation and don’t have to deal with bills, work, garbage build-up, and the giant, unreliable pain in the ass that is the Italian public system.

Italy, you KILL me.

But I digress. While I greatly enjoyed getting that off my chest, I soon realized that I was still unfulfilled. Had I really done enough? This ring. This watch. There are more Italian myths I want to bust for you. Here. Take my hand. Take a breath. And prepare to get your cultural preconceptions rocked.

 

All Italian men are sexy stallions

You want this? Have at it.

If I had a euro for every time my friends back home asked me So how many SEXxXxXYyYyY Italian stallions have you hooked up with so far?, I could buy myself enough pints of ice cream to soak up my bitter tears.

Hate to break it to you folks out there, but dudes are dudes are dudes: handsome, fit, fat, lazy, dorky, active, charming, lying, sweet, honest, genuine, horny, giant-hearted, loving, gotta-have-’em impotent sacks of crap. You’ll get certain cultural differences – see below – but by and large, and depending on your physical preferences, no one population of men is really better-looking than another.

Think about it. Your idea that Italian men are super sexy comes from TV, movies, and that one time you met that one guy when you were backpacking through Europe and were on the hunt for foreign tush so any guy looked good, right? Well, in films, the romantic leads are plucked from that microscopic pool of genetically-blessed organisms that represents THE MOST BEAUTIFUL THING YOU HAVE EVER SEEN. I mean, if you believe Hollywood, you believe that all Americans look like Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt. Same goes for any other nation that frowns upon incest: genetic pools are full of variation. In real life, you get your uglies and you get your pretties, no matter where you are. I’ve traveled a lot around Italy, and can honestly say that while I’ve met a few cuties, I’ve only met one man who knocked my socks off. Sigh.

But let’s say you do find that Italian man who really stirs your spaghetti; depending where you live, the chances are very high that, because of adherence to tradition or economic pressure, your Italian stud lives at home. Yep. “Failure to Launch”? More like “As Italian as Ricotta Pie.” If you live in a big city where there are high populations of Italians who’ve migrated from other regions for work, the chances that your stud doesn’t live at home increase, but if your ridebag is a Roman living in Rome, you will probably be shit out of luck. And let’s say that the fact that your horse-hung dude gets his underwear washed by mamma doesn’t cause your girl parts to shrivel up… where exactly are you banging this manly macho man? In a car – like a teenager? In a hotel – like a prostitute? In a friend’s empty apartment – like a mythical teenager/prostitute/mistress hybrid? GRAZIE, MA NO GRAZIE, SIGNO’.

…. wait, I’m not done. Also? A lot of Italian dudes dress like chicks. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen a promising expanse of broad shoulder, only to be stopped dead in my tracks at the sight of a pink polo shirt with a popped up collar paired with a pair of  Bermuda shorts that have “Hot Buttered” written in cursive across the ass. What the fuck am I supposed to do with that? The headbands. The diamond stud earrings. The loafers without socks. The pointy-toed shoes and the purple sweaters with the snaps and the zips and the lace-up corsets. Help me. Help me understand. Are they chicks or are they just European?

So… zero. Thanks for asking.

All the food in Italy is delicious, 100% organic, and hand-made

Yes, Italian cuisine itself is mind-liquifingly excellent, but cooking is a skill and not everyone is good at it. In my time here, I’ve eaten a lot of food that wasn’t prepared well (seriously – my neighbor Maria can ruin spinach, and that’s no mean feat). Also, Italy is a country where women work outside of the home. That means that there is an increasing demand for processed foods and supermarkets. Only a couple of generations ago, Italian women spent entire days traveling between butchers, wine distributors, bakers, and produce vendors. My grandmother kneaded all of her pasta by hand until she hit her late 70s. My great-grandmother once tipped over my dad’s Fiat 500 by putting too many kegs of wine in the front. My married female friends who work? They’re buying packets of soup, tinned beans, and frozen pizza just like you.

Processed baby food. Available in chicken, horse, rabbit, and pig.

 

Processed food culture is still relatively new in Italy, so there is a higher importance placed on organic ingredients. Flora and her mother grow and make their own everything from olive oil to canned veg; they’ve even got chickens, ducks, and quail out back. Piercarlo’s mom grows the basil from which she makes the pesto. But I also see asterisks on pub menus which denote “Item may have been frozen” and have had “meals” served to me directly from the supermarket freezer section bag it was sold in. Bottom line: it is easier to get delicious, home-grown and home-made food here. It’s just not all like that, and it’s not like that all the time.

Italians are inherently sophisticated

Many cultures fall into the trap of objectifying the “other” – especially when you’re an American dreaming about Europe. Europe is more technologically and socially advanced than we are. Europe makes better clothes and buildings than we do. Europe makes food that tastes better than our food. Europe is fancy. Look at this awesome plastic knife shaped like a hippo!!!! – Yeah, I totally got it in Europe. Everything in Europe is sophisticated just because it’s European, right?

Of course, large European cities have a certain glamour to them. But in any culture, you will find varying levels of – how shall we say – sophistication due to differences in education, economic status, and location. A small town is a small town, no matter where it is. A small-minded person is a small-minded person, no matter where he grew up. I live in a small town: I see lots of bad fashion and lots of track suit-wearing parents who feed their newborns soda and dangle them over their arm without supporting the head. Rough people who break windows and key cars for fun. Country mice who can’t understand why anyone would leave the town where they grew up. Racism, too: Romania = bad!!! Gypsies = dirt! Africa = bad! China = ching chong bad!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FIaf–4wBB0

Man orders pizza but gets served his own crap instead: CLASS.

Ask any one – even in “sophisticated” cities like New York you find morons, bigots, and overgrown children. Well, we get ’em here in Europe, too. They just speak a different language.

Every square inch of Italy is gorgeous

Yeah, I know. We do all right here.

Except when:

Image from Wikipedia

And, when… ew!

Image from Wikipedia

Ugh!

Clock Tower, Sabaudia

 

Image from Wikipedia.

Why?

My friends and I often joke: Where were you today? Beautiful Latina. Isn’t the centro of Sabaudia gorgeous? Make sure to bring your camera – so many beautiful things to see! Italians have Fascist architects to thank for these angular, toad-like atrocities. Now present and future generations have to deal with these “futuristic” monstrosities until some government official gets their crap together and razes them from the face of the planet. So, forever, basically.

Also, my bathroom is pretty gross right now.

Fangul, Gumba, Capeesh, and Paisan are Italian words


Italian is the official language of Italy. It derives from Latin. It has roots beginning in the 10th century. It is the language of business, art, education, and literature.

Fangul, gumba, capeesh, and paisan are words in Italian dialects. Italian dialects – such as Napoletano, Siciliano, Milanese, Terracinese, Fondano, etc – are not Italian. Italian dialects are the many, many other languages that evolved in various parts of Italy at the same time Italian was evolving. They are the languages that are spoken in the home and between people from the same region. They are the languages brought over to America by the early waves of Italian immigrants; words passed down through generations and, as time went on, mistakenly identified as “Italian” by the immigrants’ non-Italian speaking American descendants and popularized as such through the books and film. If you’re not an Italian speaker and think you know an Italian word, chances are very high that you’re using dialect. Mozzarell? Dialect. Gabagool? Dialect. Scungil? Salù? Pasta fazool? Dialect, dialect, dialect.

The use of dialect – il dialetto – is a touchy subject in Italy. On the one hand, the use of dialect is seen as a unifying badge of community. On the other hand, the use of dialect is considered to be a mark of ignorance or low-class; i.e., someone who never went to school and learned to speak Italian. My mother was horrified when I came home from kindergarten armed with an “Italian” word that an Italian-American friend had taught me: That’s dialect. That’s wrong. You will never use those words! Only illiterate people speak dialect! Learn to speak Italian! I didn’t come into contact with dialect again until I was 17 and visiting my mother’s family in Colleferro, when I noticed that her aunts were chopping off the ends of their verbs. What’s wrong with them? I asked my father. Why are they talking that way? My father replied: That’s Roman dialect. It’s awesome! Try it. My mother has never forgiven him.

I love words so therefore, I love Italian dialects: my power grows each day. Italian dialects are rich and vibrant and sometimes so different to each other as to be unintelligible to outsiders.

I’m completely fascinated by them and can’t get enough. Northern? Southern? I want it all! My friends are, in equal measure, proud and mortified that their dialects are rubbing off on me: when Flora and Mona – cousins – start speaking to each other, they unconsciously lapse into Fondano dialect and Riccardo has made it his mission to instill me with a healthy dose of Sperlongano and Napoletano. Emilia is already busting out Culonese words and I just love it to death! But Fondano, Romanesco, Sperlongano, Napoletano, and Culonese aren’t Italian. My mother says: As long as you know the difference, you’ll be all right.

FYI: Gumba’ is a Fondano word while va’fa’ncul’paisan, and capisc’ are usually associated with Naples; “capeesh” and “fangul” are the English corruptions of capisc’ and va’fa’ncul’. In Fondano, va’fa’ncul’ is often pronounced va’fa’ngul‘. The Italian words for gumba’, va’fa’ncul’, paisan, and capisc are, respectively: compare, vaffanculo, paisano, and capisci.

Bonus Myth: Italians Never Work

This is blatantly false! Italians sometimes work, okay? Usually between the hours of 9 and 1, before pausing for a well-deserved 3-hour lunch break – and then picking up again after 4:00 p.m. Gosh, this myth really burns me up – Italians work hard! Offices and business are open for 11 months of the year, four days a week, excepting major religious holidays, and occasionally when you ask an official for help, they’ll give it to you – what else do you want?

Italian myths… busted! In your face! I’d celebrate with a glass of Prosecco but it’s Wednesday so my bar is closed.

18 Replies to “Five Myths About Italy”

  1. Loafers without socks? Seriously? As in, loafers WITH socks is peferable and a good thing?! Must be American! In Australia if you wear socks with any form of footwear that isn’t closed in, e.g. loafers, thongs (aka “flip flops”), etc… EWWW!

    By the way, totally come to Australia next! So many slang words you won’t know what the hell is being said, even if it is in English!! 😀

  2. I’m not sure what you mean. Mamma washed boy panties gets me all kinds of worked up ^_~

    1. Me, too. Mmmm…. man-child.

  3. Haha! Just read your Expat interview. I have to say I’m disappointed to learn that all Italian men are not hot! The few I’ve met here in Berlin have been beautiful. Maybe Italy exports all the good-looking ones as ambassadors???

    1. Give. Them. Back.

      1. LOL. This post really did make me laugh out loud. Twice.

  4. I wholeheartedly agree with everything except for the hot men. The week I spent at the beach outside of Naples was filled with beautiful men. Yes, they all lived with their mothers but once you throw the chiseled abs, tiny speedos and stunning features into the mix, who cares?! Lol.
    I actually was moved enough by all the beauty to write a post about it:

    http://apostcardfrombrooklyn.blogspot.com/2011/08/day-20-tuesday-july-19th-im-on-island.html

    And the friend we were staying with actually had his mom do our laundry and my laundry has never been so clean or smelled so good. I told my husband not to get used to it 🙂

  5. When I lived in Italy I was to wonder why on earth foreigners thought all Italian men were hot. Then I spent two years in London and I understood lol

  6. Great post! I’d love a 5 Myths post for more European countries.

  7. I love that Cinema Impero. And why can’t Italian children learn about poopy like other kids?

    Nice website by the way.

  8. awesome insight in italian culture! only those fascist/futuristic architecture pictures(cinema impero and fiat tagliero)are from asmara, eritrea.

  9. I really doubt people dress like tht in italy. Ive never been there but Ive looked up pictures and I know brands from there. Maybe if you gave me pictures Id believe you.

    1. ieatmypigeon says: Reply

      Ah, yes. Never having been to a place and having seen picture brands from there is a far more reliable source of information than someone who actually lives there. But you’ve given me an idea.

  10. The Cimea above is in AFRICA you idiot! Asmara!

  11. Dear author,
    My honest, heart-felt response to your article is: if you don’t like Italy, then go back to the States, where I’m sure you will find good food, culture and history, hot men and all the other stuff you write about. To your defence, the cinema Paradiso in Asmara pictured in your article was inspired by the cinema Paradiso in Rome… but please, I have lived in several countries throughout my life and would find it ungrateful to say the least to write what you have written about Italy. It’s as though I took a trip through the mid-west and then started saying americans are red-necks who sip on moonshine while sitting on their very questionable garden furniture.

    1. Dear Federico,

      You say you have lived in several countries throughout your life. Therefore, I’m sure you have also experienced the love-hate relationship that can occur between a person and their adopted country. I am very certain that the instant you set foot outside of Italy you began to complain about how terrible the coffee is, how badly the people dress, etc. I am also certain that, being Italian, you understand that sometimes a person can also passionately love and sometimes hate the country they were born in.

      https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=5aWYkwV-pn0

      G.G. can complain about Italy but I can’t? Notice, G.G. is actually COMPLAINING, whereas I just made jokes. Why is it okay for Gabor to do it and not me? Because he was born in Italy? Perhaps I wasn’t born in Italy, but I have eyes. I have ears. I have feelings. When something goes wrong, I feel it. When something bad happens, I can see it. The negative and positive things about this country affect me, regardless of where I was born. I’m supposed to shut my mouth because I wasn’t born here? Cammina….

      Oh, by the way. Through my mother, who was born and raised in Colleferro, I am an Italian citizen. I am a resident of the town where I have chosen to live. My ancestors are buried in the cemetery of that same town. I pay my taxes! I will leave Italy WHEN and ONLY WHEN I choose to.

      Good day, sir.

  12. Dear author,
    You could have been born anywhere in the world, I would have made the same comment had the article been written by my 75 year old roman neighbour. I would simply have advised him to move to Germany or something, rather than the USA.
    Certainly, I have some reservations about given aspects of the countries where I have lived, but that does not mean I publicly slander the country which has hosted me (especially if moving there was my choice). At the very least, if I decided to provide a description/interpretation of a country to potential visitors, I would not provide a one-sided argument (i.e. country X sucks, which is what you have done. There is nothing positive about Italy in your article), but would rather say country X has positives and negatives.
    Do not try to pass me for a xenophobe, that’s just cheap. And by the way, it is apparent that there is some Italian in you, hence your tendency to complain so manifestly.

    Regards

Leave a Reply

four + twenty =

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.